Have you ever felt this big urge to have a day off at home? What would that look like? Can you really be lazy and just relax without the place falling apart?
These are questions I have asked myself often. Then my brain has this internal debate, like the cartoons where the angel and the devil versions of yourself are on your shoulders talking different messages into your ears.
My messages were mostly filled with guilt. Why do you have to ask for a day off? Your family helps you every day, don’t be selfish and ask for more. It is not a big deal to prep meals on the weekend and help in the kitchen.
On the other hand, my angel was saying: girl, you are exhausted! Asking for help ONE DAY, just ONE DAY in the year is not that big of a deal. You deserve it and you also know that if anyone in your family asked for a day off, you will be there to support them 100%!
In order to calm my nerves, I told myself I wanted to be curious about what would happen.
First, I knew I had to communicate my expectations properly.
Breakfast, lunch, and dinner are not my responsibility, same with dishes and other tasks in the house. Then, after thinking more about it, I told my Dad I would still help him with his ointment, but that was it.
It was a wonderful surprise and a very good lesson for me.
My Dad woke up early and made breakfast for the 3 of us, then cleaned up. Scott took over for lunch and since we had a bunch of left-overs, dinner was just a “serve and heat up” task.
I also eliminated any of my “fun tasks” such as recording videos for my YouTube channel and working on my own business.
What am I going to do with a FULL DAY at home with “nothing to do”?
I read, watched a few episodes of Jack Ryan and Suits, exercised, took a nap in the afternoon, journaled, meditated, did breathing exercises, etc.
I had wonderful discoveries about “lies” I tell myself to stay in my comfort zone. I also put into practice a few tools I’ve learned along the way to switch a bit of the “victimhood” mindset for a kind and empowering mindset.
By the time Monday morning came around, I woke up with an amount of energy I haven’t had in months!!!
Would you be brave enough to ask for a day off?
I think the part I had to be most brave about was letting go of control and accepting that there are other ways to do things in the house when I’m not in charge. It was a lovely experience that I encourage you to try!