Instead of setting goals for 2022, try this
For years I set goals, even last year.
I learned about the SMART method (Specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and timely) many “experts” recommend and used it for my goals. Here is my list from last year.
Goal 1 – Buy a house
Goal 2 – Reach financial independence
Goal 3 – Create more time freedom
Goal 4 – Travel more
You get the picture.
As soon as January 1st 2021 rolled in, I got to work on my goals.
I reached out to a real estate agent and started house hunting, the process lasted for 2 excruciating months.
After going into a couple of bidding wars, and honestly getting so stressed about having everything ready to send the bid, all the paperwork, and pre-approval letters within minutes of seeing the house if we liked it, I gave up.
I noticed I was starting fights with my partner that were completely not how our relationship works. It was not worth it.
Then came financial independence – goal 1 & 2 were actually fighting each other.
If I wanted a house, that meant I needed a mortgage, which would take me away from financial independence.
The two were bringing so much anxiety and clutter into my mind.
As I shared earlier, I dropped goal 1, then I had to get realistic with goal 2.
What does financial independence really mean for me? How much money do I need to have? What do I need to do for this?
I realized I was just afraid of leaving my comfy 6 figure engineering job and what people would think of me, especially my super conservative traditional Dad. I gathered the courage and quit my job last May, shifting my “lack” mentality into an abundance mindset.
Time freedom – Well, this one is tricky. I do now have the flexibility of choosing how I spend my time, but I’ve noticed that I still have to fight my inner people pleasing tendency and spending time doing things that don’t bring me joy. Which leads me back to my intention and having a clear understanding of WHO I am.
Last goal – travel more. This can mean many different things to many different people. For me, it means going to far away places like Australia, Egypt, Singapore, China, etc. As you know, the global situation is constantly changing and requirements for traveling are also constantly changing. I modified my goal to be more effortless and travel to places where I felt comfortable and were easy to get to. So I kind of reached that goal.
This is a lesson that has taken me 30+ years to learn.
In the past year, the biggest shift through this process of unlearning setting goals was understanding my inner dialogue and realizing that many times goals were creating more stress and anxiety in my life. Leading me to be someone who I didn’t want to be.
This is why, for 2022 and beyond, I invite you to focus on WHO you want to be, what parts of your inner dialogue you want to improve and continue to practice being, attracting, and living effortlessly.
I had glimpses of what living effortlessly and getting into the energy of attraction really feels like last year while I took 3 months off after quitting my job. The possibilities are incredible, and honestly, goals limited me and got me far from what I truly was worthy and deserving of.
If you are ready to let go of the stress and chaos in your life and want to bring more fulfillment, impact, and happiness, then the Engineering Wellness Academy may be the right fit for you.
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